I got up & walked away, leaving Arthur & everyone to process. This is something that has taken me years to come to terms with, & it is something I have come to accept, but thank you for rubbing it in my face. I will never be able to conceive or have my own children. He then says to me that I will never feel complete unless I have kids, & that it's a woman's purpose to have kids. I really fucking wish I was kidding with this next part. He says I don't have kids, I will regret it. This made me so uncomfortable, & I said that I don't want kids.Īrthur, completely unprompted, launched into a huge rant about how nothing will ever compare to the feeling of holding your newborn baby, watching them grow, how much he enjoyed being there for his children's births. He gestures to my engagement ring & makes a comment about how they'll be on their way soon. I told Arthur that, no, I don't have any kids. Pretty much the conversation went: Intros, 'I'm hanging out with tonight so I don't have to go home, the kids are too much sometimes', and then immediately to 'do you have any kids?' He was visiting his brother for lunch last week.

I've told them politely in the past that my fiancé and I have no plans for children, and shut it down. They make gross comments like 'your parents are waiting for their grandkids', 'you don't know what you're missing out on', etc. Whenever the topic of kids comes up, someone will inevitably ask me when my fiancé & I will be having kids. This colleague has a brother we'll call him Arthur. His cultural background basically says the more kids they have, the better the parents will be looked when they get older. One guy has 7 kids, his wife is a SAHM, & his siblings all have at least 5 kids. Once she has kids, she's expected to be a SAHM.Īnother guy is studying away from his home country, and FWIK his parents have already arranged a marriage for when he returns home. One woman wants kids because it's 'expected of her'. I don't want kids, & ALL of my colleagues have/want kids. Previous post was removed for being too long so some context will be left out.

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